How a Wedding Reminded Me of the Power of Gratitude

A few weeks ago, I attended my cousin's wedding. And it was one of those events that just felt really thoughtful in every detail. Beautiful setting, delicious food, great speeces, dancing, and lots of happy tears. 

 But one thing they did really stayed with me. My cousin and his now-wife had written a handwritten letter to every single guest. And there were about 100 guests.

Each person received a personal note with memories they shared and things they appreciated about them. I thought it was such a meaningful gesture.

I know I wasn't the only one who felt that way either. So many people were talking about how touched they were.

It reminded me of an exercise from positive psychology called the Gratitude Letter. This one of my favorite well-being practices because it's not just about the individual. It's about connection. And honestly, we need more of that.

The idea is simple: Think of someone who has positively impacted your life but who you haven't properly thanked. Maybe a parent, sibling, teacher, friend, mentor, colleague. Someone who showed up for you in a way that mattered.

Then write them a letter. Share specific memories. Tell them what you appreciate about them. Let them know how they've impacted your life. You can send it as a message, write it in a card, or even read it to them.

Years ago, when I first learned about this exercise in a college class, I wrote one to my mom. I thanked her for so many little things I had taken for granted growing up, and I read it to her over the phone. It ended up being one of the most meaningful conversations we've had.

And while yes, research shows gratitude can support well-being, happiness, and even reduce stress, I think what I love most about this practice is that it creates connection. It reminds people that they matter.

And in a world where most of us are moving fast and assuming people already know how much we appreciate them, I think that's really special. If this feels a little awkward or vulnerable, that's completely normal. You don't have to make it perfect. Treat it like an experiment! See what happens.

And if you try it, I'd genuinely love to hear how it goes! My email inbox and Instagram DMs are open, as always.

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